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Self Talk- Transforming negative thoughts into Positive ones

Pay attention to your internal dialogue to free yourselves from self-doubt.

The laboratory of Neuroimaging at the University of Southern California says that a person has about 70000 thoughts per day. Our minds work just like movies- in both images and words. Some of us think in images and some talk in words and for some like me- it's both.

My strongest, negative self-talk was “You are such an Idiot- How could you do that/say that?”. It took me alot of reflection on my part and accepting my experiences, my mistakes and just who I am as a person. I had to retrain my brain to fall in love with myself first and then my near and dear ones. Prioritize yourself first so you can prioritize others in your life. Self-Love is the new Self-Preservation!

It has been estimated that up to 90% of some people’s self-talk is negative. We can hang on, strengthen, minimize, or let go of thoughts. Reprogramming negative self-talk takes awareness, emotional intelligence, and committed effort.

We all talk to ourselves silently (self-talk). Similar to when we talk with others, our choice of words makes a huge difference. Use kind and positive words for success, happiness, health, and self-esteem.

Practice this....

Notice your self-talk and change negative words to positive words, Say the “before and after” example aloud and notice the difference.

Before: I have to travel this week

After: I get to travel this week, I am so excited to see new places and meet new people.

Before: I’m so stupid; why did I do that?

After: This happened, it’s over, and now I have a different perspective and learned from it. I will learn from my mistakes and make sure to not repeat them.

Before: Wow, he/she was so mean to me… (repeated negative thoughts)

After: That person was mean to me and it’s unfair. I don’t know their situation; however, that’s a great lesson for me to be kind and respectful to others at all times.

Self talk is the internal dialogue within the subconscious mind of an individual. Self talk is the manifestation of our thoughts and beliefs. This habit starts right from the childhood and impacts our various life experiences. Research reveals that 70% of our self talk is negative or self-critical. Negative self talk breeds negative responses and behavior.

However, negative self talk habits can be altered for positive changes in life. Positive affirmations are the extraordinary tools to counteract negative beliefs, thoughts and self talk.

Linking my positive affirmations for Self-Love in the Printables section to print or save as pdf and practice saying the affirmations in the mirror loudly and fall in love with yourself all over again.

Let me know in the comments below what’s your favorite self-love affirmation. Don’t forget to tag me on instagram @fiddlinglifestyle if you find this article useful.

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